Bullying is a Soul Destroyer…!

Bullying destroys
Bullying is a 'Soul Destroyer' but only if you CHOOSE to let it be...!

Blogger uses bullying recovery as impetus for book

Ruth Anne Caukwell releases ‘Musings of a Blogger Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life’s Journey’

CANTERBURY, New Zealand – Author Ruth Anne Caukwell suffered a soul-destroying period of adult bullying through which time, support and writing helped her endure. The experience led to her new book, “Musings of a Blogger: Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life’s Journey” (published by Balboa Press AU), which is a collection of inspirational thoughts with workbook exercises relating to each chapter.

An excerpt from “Musings of a Blogger”:

What is life? All of us have asked this question at some point in our lives, and we all seek to find the answers—but are there any, and if so, what are they? Many seek the meaning of life through religion, science, or in whatever means they feel will fulfill, or answer, this question. So what is life? Life is different to each one of us, and the answers we seek can be simple if we only look to ourselves, look inwards, look within. In life, there is only what you know, not only of the world and how it functions but also the secret life within you. Our senses and what we see make up our entire beings.

 “Musings of a Blogger Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life’s Journey”

By Ruth Anne Caukwell

Softcover | 7.5 x 9.25in | 166 pages | ISBN 9781504300490

E-Book | 166 pages | ISBN 9781504300506


Bullying is a Soul Destroyer…!

Bullying is everywhere in society and affects people from a young age right through to the elderly – it is not  just a childhood happening as many adults  have and are suffering at the hands of bullies!

Bullying comes in all shapes and sizes and in many forms:

  • Verbal
  • Physical
  • Mental
  • silence and even just a
  • look…!

Bullying is done by all sorts of people:

  • work colleagues
  • family
  • Friends
  • groups of people and even
  • strangers…!

Bullying occurs for many, many different reasons:

  • jealousy
  • hatred
  • anger
  • inadequacy
  • self-esteem (high or low)
  • punishment
  • unawareness and
  • power and control…!

Bullying has many levels and can be:

  • blatant
  • subtle
  • in-your-face
  • underhanded and sneakily done
  • a ‘one-off’ or continuous occurrence…


Choose to walk free from bullying!
Bullying is a ‘soul destroyer’ only if you CHOOSE to let it be…!

but in whatever form it takes Bullying is SOUL DESTROYING…!

So Say… YES to NO bullying!



B = Brutal!

Bullying is brutal because it involves the destruction of a person’s confidence, self-esteem, freedom and rights to be who they really are!

U = Ugliness!

Bullying is ugly because it shows the dark side of human nature – a lack of respect and sadly the need for ‘one-or-more persons’ to hurt and bring another down!

L = Leverage!

Bullying is leverage because it falsely gives ‘one-or-more persons’ the illusion that they are better than another… it, in their eyes, gives them the ‘power’ and ‘control’!

L = Loneliness!

Bullying  is loneliness as it isolates the ‘one’ from the ‘others’. It sets up many false self-beliefs as it destroys an individual’s very essence…!

Y – Yielding!

Bullying is a yielding, as it demonstrates the surrender of the’one-or-more persons’ to their baser, hurtful instincts – kindness, respect, honour and love become overshadowed as they yield and succumb…to the darker aspects of their character!

I = Isolation

Bullying is isolation for both the victim and the perpetrator/s as the:

‘one’ becomes isolated from who they really are in the belief that they are a lesser person and a nothing!

– likewise with the ‘one-or-more persons’ – they become isolated as, deeper and deeper, they fall within the shadow of the power and control that bullying seemingly brings!

N = Nameless

Bullying is about being nameless for both the victim and the perpetrator/s as:-

– the ‘one’ gradually loses their name and identity becoming just the ‘object’ for abuse!

– likewise with the ‘one-or-more persons’ as they too loose their name and identity becoming just the cause of both hurt and pain!

G = Gag

Bullying becomes a gag upon which to silence an individual… their hopes, dreams, laughter and their… very existence!

It leaves instead … a hollow shell!

Bullying is SOUL DESTROYING, but have hope as you can, and MUST, rise above it for… YOU are worth it!

My message to all who read this is this – if you are being bullied in some way, whether blatant or subtlybullying is NOT OKAY and you are worth so much more!

You are precious and deserve to be who you are, so please seek help NOW! Hold out your hand, talk to someone and work together to break away from this soul-destroying cycle of abuse – I have done it and others have, so, you can too!


‘After a cold, harsh winter comes the warmth of summer.

Just as the night will herald in the day…

After every storm cloud that rolls across your sky,

there is left a clear blue vista for your eyes to look to, so…

know that through cold, harsh, dark and stormy times there waits the calm.

All you need to do is to look with eyes that see, reach out and grasp it with both of your hands’


My inspirational book – ‘Musings of a Blogger – Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life’s Journey’ is a book which will inspire you to make CHOICES that will be right for your life! The inspirational words… the connecting workbook (with it’s two amazing themes – The Hexagon of Life and the Parable of the Butterfly) plus, the Reader’s Group Questions are all written for you to choose to make a choice to ‘step out’ the sphere of Bullying …!

So decide today to take a journey of self discovery and find the freedom and peace that you deserve!

-Chapter two – ‘The Stoppers in our lives’ and chapter 1s of the workbook

-Chapter three – ‘What is fear?’ and chapter 13 of the workbook

-Chapter four – ‘Embrace change’ and chapter 14 of the workbook

-Chapter five – ‘Self-esteem’ – what are your values?’ and chapter 15 of the workbook

-Chapter six – ‘Challenging your though patterns’ and chapter 16 of the workbook

-Chapter eight – ‘Loneliness and Hope’ and chapter 18 of the workbook and,

– Chapter 10 – ‘Choices, chances and changes’ and chapter 20 of the workbook.

Images taken by Ruth Anne Caukwell (C)





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    • Hi Uday

      thank you so much for reading my post and commenting, really appreciate your support! take care,

  • I really like that your message expounds on the forms, how it happens, who can do it, and what it does to you. It really makes you think about how easily bullying happens! I love the inspiration at the end about everyone deserving to be themselves! In my opinion you couldn’t and put a better closing for your message.

    • Hi Baylee – thank you so much for your great message and what an inspiration to me…! Especially as having been through bullying it is difficult to not only face and overcome but to write it in a way that is hopeful for others both the perpetrator and those who suffer because of it. Yes bullying can be very impervious or blatant and many do not realize that they are a victim of it. I appreciate you taking the time to write your message and thank you once again, lol Ruth

  • Wow. Thank you for bringing such massive awareness to bullying and what it does to our souls! I’m writing a book called “Dancing with Shadows” – also for Balboa Press – which details the effects bullying has on our mind, body, soul and spirit. Kindred Spirits I say! I appreciate the pain you went through to help others with your book. <3 Peace to you

    • Hi Jillian – wow this is amazing and hey I would love to keep in touch. Thank you so much for your lovely message and kind words. Do let me know when your book is published and isn’t Balboa the best! Take care, Ruth, x

  • Deeply resonating with me as the memories of my own childhood bullying and the current plight of several loved ones. I love the Acrostic-like BULLYING section. I feel as though it’s something that schools could teach to. Much love and continued healing on this crazy journey called life.

    • Hi MamaSavesALot
      wow thank you for your message and I am so glad that my words and how I put my experience resonated with you. Yes what a journey life is and yes it is and can be so crazy! Many do not realize that we do have a choice, ultimately we do and even if that means reaching out towards those who can help or care and when we are ready, then and only then, we can step-out on our own. Yes I am still healing and those scars will always be there but how far I have come and it was the pivotal point for me starting to write – what a blessing! Do keep in touch as I would love to hear from you again, lol Ruth

  • Very nice post, and extremely eye-opening. Honestly I never thought of bullying as something that might extend out into adulthood. Thanks for giving me something to think about.

    • Hi Dawn
      thank you for your message and sadly Adult Bullying is actually rife within daily life. It can be found in all industries, at home, within relationships, family, friends, strangers even and in any age, including elderly people (many are bullied both mentally, physically and control of their money). Awareness is the key…
      Appreciate you reading and sharing my blog, thank you, regards Ruth

  • Hi Ruthanne, Thank you so much for writing this beautiful piece. I really love reading the article. Very true & we all face this somehow in our life but we should not be doing this to others. A positive life with good vibes is always more successful.
    I have read a few other blog posts written by you, They are amazing. Keep sharing. I am pinning this article now.
    Have a great day!

    • Dear Creative
      wow I am touched by your words and I am so passionate about opening peoples minds to the choices they have to overcome, to respect and love who they are that to read what you wrote brought tears to my eyes! Thank you so much! And yes… what people do to each other is so very sad as both their words (or silence) and actions (or non-action) can and often does destroy! But I know, from my own life experiences, that you can overcome even though difficult, painful and can take a long time. There will always be scars and one is changed but if you take the positive out of any situation, learn wisdom and step out in confidence and faith of the ‘new-you’ then it becomes ALL worth it! Do take care and thank you once again, kindest regards Ruth

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