Loss – Overcoming & Living Again

Our loved ones will always be with us if we choose to let them!
Loss can be devastating and so hard to bare but keep those good memories close...!
 There are many kinds of losses in our lives but none so painful and devastating as the loss of a person, or people we love. For those who have some kind of faith – in God, a higher being or believe in another form of life after death – the belief that they will see their loved one again often can sustain them during this period of mourning, change and readjustment. And for those who believe that death is final after loss, having such things as keepsakes and photographs, etc., plus memories, can be the sustaining force behind overcoming such a loss.

In saying this though coping through such a time in our lives can be a very difficult one, one so painful that we feel that we will never live again – I know as I lost both my father (in his 50’s) and my sister (in her 30’s) through illness. But even through the pain and suffering, if we believe that our loved ones are with us – and they are!

They are in our memories, thoughts and the legacy they have left behind through how they shaped and influenced our lives – we CAN live again and live a fulfilling, wonderful life!

Here is a beautiful poem written at least fifty years ago (not sure by whom) which I would love to share as it reminds us that even though our loved ones have left us with their passing we can remember them through the beauty that we see around us:

 

Beautiful Poem About Moving Forward From Loss

Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep

Do not stand at my grave and weep;

I am not there. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry;

I am not there. I did not die.

(Anon)

loss - guy on mountain
So if you have suffered a loss of a loved one take heart in the belief that you can and will live again!

It is never easy to overcome our emotions, to believe in life again. To live, laugh, love and be happy – when the person, or people, that we love have left us but if in bleak difficult times we look to our inner resources. Then, in these times of conflict, we will find that we have the ability to deal with that conflict thus, we can live in peace!

Yes… sometimes our emotions can become our conflict – a conflict which can fill our core with grief: the unfairness, the hurt, the betrayal of being left alone… the sadness, the guilt and, the loneliness!

Yes… grief can become our pain which, if we let it, can make us bitter, resentful, miserable and, a recluse from life!

But if you ride out this pain and keep your loved one in your heart, mind, memories and your soul you will eventually find HopePeaceLove and you will learn to live again!

When our eyes cannot find the way and the storms of life close in, although we may lose much, our love of life still runs strongly throughout veins. This will help us climb the difficult path to the top of our mountain!

So if you have suffered a loss of a loved one take heart in the belief that you can and will live again! Take care and keep your good memories close, share them and talk about them to others and choose to let your loved one live in you!

YES to keeping your good memories close…!

 

My inspirational book – Musings of a Blogger – Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life’s Journey’ is a book which will inspire you to make CHOICES that will be right for your life! The inspirational words… the connecting workbook (with its two amazing themes – The Hexagon of Life and the Parable of the Butterfly) plus, the Reader’s Group Questions are all written to assist you to choose to walk hand-in-hand with time and take the journey towards healing…!

– Chapter four – ‘Embrace change’ and chapter 14 of the workbook

– Chapter six – ‘Challenging your though patterns’ and chapter 16 of the workbook

– Chapter 10 – ‘Choices, chances and changes’ and chapter 20 of the workbook.

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  • This one is a beautiful piece, Ruth Anne. Very uplifting! I can tell you that when you lose someone close it is as if you have loss a part of your being. You become an empty shell if that person means a lot to you. You suffer depression and stress dealing with the loss. But it’s only human nature to feel the hurt of losing someone dear. Thanks for sharing!

    • Oh YES Diane – yes and I know exactly what you feel and all those feelings of grief and loss. I lost my dad and sister within two years which took my darling mum and I a lot to cope with. I learnt time does not heal but it is your yourself that can choose to heal even though the scars will always remain, you can learn to live – a different life.
      thank you for your generosity in disclosing your grief and feelings to me, that means a lot – do take care, Ruth

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